Igniting Intimacy: Balancing Wisdom and Love

By Doug Esse

The following is my response to a fellow seeker who had read my post: A Meditation for Balancing the Energy Centers as Informed by Counseling and the Law of One. He wondered if I had any thoughts about someone who may have the “other challenge,” that is, what does one do when there is a firmly established “clarity/peace/wisdom of nondual awareness–but the texture and richness and humility and depth of love hasn’t caught up?”

If my words below intrigue or clarify anything for the reader, then I am grateful.

Here it is:



…Great post, Doug — maybe you can do one (or already have?) who have the other challenge — the clarity/peace/wisdom of nondual awareness is firmly online, established, continually refining and deepening on its own — but the texture and richness and humility and depth of love hasn’t caught up. Appreciate it!


You bring up an interesting question… how can we find balance when the issue may be a preference of wisdom over love? If we have a “the clarity/peace/wisdom of nondual awareness is firmly online, established, continually refining and deepening on its own–but the texture and richness and humility and depth of love hasn’t caught up,” what can we do to find balance there?

The Common Love-Over-Wisdom Imbalance

I’m not sure I can offer a satisfying reflection, but I’ll attempt it.  Ra states that for the positive path, there are those who may have an abundance of love over wisdom, and their task is to balance out their robust heart-chakra opening with more blue-ray energy (throat chakra).  The Ra group themselves admit to being naive even in 6th density and this certainly implies a “love over wisdom” imbalance at the collective level for them.  Also, 4th density Wanderers and 4th density social memory complexes (societies that share one heart/mind) may naturally have a love-over-wisdom bias because that is where their metaphysical developmental levels are at.  


Negative Path Is the Wisdom-Without-Love Path

Negative entities bypass the heart altogether and use the intentional blocking of the lower chakras as a springboard into the indigo center.  They don’t have access to the fullness of indigo center activation which is the norm for a positive adept.  It is as if they play their five cards out of a deck of fifty-two really well whereas a positive person may have access to the fifty-two cards but doesn’t really know how to play.  The negative adept is not wisdom-over-love but rather wisdom-without-love.  


The Rarer Fifth-Density Wanderer

But for the person you describe, who is on the positive path, Ra mentions that there is the rare 5th density Wanderer who comes in to provide a service in a kind of surgical manner (my interpretation).  Fifth density is the density of exploring wisdom, especially the subtle consequences of karma and the nature of reality at its more subtle and nuanced nature. 

I sometimes imagine a fifth-density being as a kind of scientist who is overjoyed at the prospect of studying the nature of reality for the next few million years.  Or I may imagine an adept-hermit who belongs to a wonderful monastic community just up the hill but spends most of their time in a little hermitage, which is secluded and peaceful.

They spend a lot of time doing astral travel and learning how to be co-Creators using and wielding light, itself.  Since many fifth-density beings may do a lot of learning alone, they may not often be inclined to do Wandering as part of their service.  But when they do, they may not desire to have many deep relationships once they incarnate as 3rd density beings because they sort of don’t want to get caught up or entangled karmically.  See the following quote from Ra.

32.9 Questioner: I am assuming from what we have previously looked at . . . we have on Earth today, and have had in the past, fourth-, fifth-, and sixth-density wanderers. As they come into incarnation in the physical of this density for a period as a wanderer, what types of polarizations with respect to these various rays do they find affecting them? Can you tell me that?

Ra: I am Ra. I believe I grasp the thrust of your query. Please ask further if this answer is not sufficient.

Fourth-density wanderers, of which there are not many, will tend to choose those entities which seem to be full of love or in need of love. There is the great possibility/probability of entities making errors in judgment due to the compassion with which other-selves are viewed.

The fifth-density wanderer is one who is not tremendously affected by the stimulus of the various rays of other-self and, in its own way, offers itself when a need is seen. Such entities are not likely to engage in the, shall we say, custom of your peoples called marriage and are very likely to feel an aversion to childbearing and child-raising due to the awareness of the impropriety of the planetary vibrations relative to the harmonious vibrations of the density of light.

The sixth density, whose means of propagation you may liken to what you call fusion, is likely to refrain, to a great extent, from the bisexual reproductive programming of the bodily complex and instead seek out those with whom the sexual energy transfer is of the complete fusion nature insofar as this is possible in manifestation in third density.


I have met a few people I may intuit as fifth-density Wanderers due to their advanced ability to grasp complex metaphysical things and their preternatural inclinations to delve into the nature of things at a depth that is not necessarily supported, understood, or even predicted given their communities of origin. 

Sometimes these people present as more asexual. They simply don’t understand what all the hubbub is about with the emotion and love thing, especially in relationships.  Or maybe they do understand it but they aren’t really attracted to exploring too much emotionality as they feel it can get in the way. I sometimes think of the Vulcan race in Star Trek. 

However, I have seen such people sometimes worry that they are missing out on something that everyone else seems to enjoy, and this causes them to think they have a psychological problem.  And they actually may have that problem, too.  It can be a both/and thing. 


“They were disconcerted…”

Drop-Down and Turn Around?

It is also interesting to think about, but early positive fifth-density beings who become Wanderers may be leaning so far into too their wisdom side (blue-ray energy center) that they can unintentionally block of their heart center and polarize negatively! Indeed, in the name of being of service to a third-density planet, one can actually block their own hearts so much, and shepherd followers to block their hearts so much, that these fifth-density Wanderers flip polarities in their third-density Wandering and upon dying, they are shocked at what had happened. As newly minted negative beings upon the service-to-self path, they will need to incarnate in fourth density upon a negative planet and figure out if they are going to spend the next billion years or so upon the negative path, or will they work hard and attempt to reverse polarity at some point and get back on track.

Though that is rare, it has happened and Ra speaks about it when 2 early 5th density Wanderers came to their home planet (Venus) which was a very harmonious and exceedingly “love over wisdom” third-density experience.  See here, although I apologize for the length: 

89.33 Questioner: What was the origin of the two entities of which you speak?

Ra: I am Ra. These entities were wanderers from early positive fifth density.

89.34 Questioner: And yet, though they had already evolved through a positive fourth density they, shall we say, flipped polarity in the reincarnating in third density. Is this correct?

Ra: I am Ra. This is correct.

89.35 Questioner: What was the catalyst for their change?

Ra: I am Ra. In our peoples there was what may be considered, from the viewpoint of wisdom, an overabundance of love. These entities looked at those still in darkness and saw that those of a neutral or somewhat negative viewpoint found such harmony, shall we say, sickening. The wanderers felt that a more wisdom-oriented way of seeking love could be more appealing to those in darkness.

First one entity began its work. Quickly the second found the first. These entities had agreed to serve together, and so they did, glorifying the One Creator, but not as they intended. About them were soon gathered those who found it easy to believe that a series of specific knowledges and wisdoms would advance one towards the Creator.

The end of this was the graduation into fourth-density negative of the wanderers, which had much power of personality, and some small deepening of the negatively polarized element of those not polarizing positively. There was no negative harvest as such.

89.36 Questioner: What was the reason for the wandering of these two wanderers, and were they male and female?

Ra: I am Ra. All wanderers come to be of assistance in serving the Creator, each in its own way. The wanderers of which we have been speaking were indeed incarnated male and female as this is by far the most efficient system of partnership.

89.37 Questioner: As a wild guess, one of these entities wouldn’t be the one who has been our companion here for some time in our sessions, would it?

Ra: I am Ra. No.

89.38 Questioner: Then from what you say I am guessing that these wanderers returned or wandered to Ra’s third density to possibly seed greater wisdom into what they saw as an overabundance of compassion in the Ra culture. Is this correct?

Ra: I am Ra. This is incorrect in the sense that before incarnation it was the desire of the wanderers only to aid in service to others. The query has correctness when seen from the viewpoint of the wanderers within that incarnation.

89.39 Questioner: I just can’t understand why they would think that a planet that was doing as well as Ra was doing, as far as I can tell, would need wanderers in order to help with a harvest. Was this at an early point in Ra’s third density?

Ra: I am Ra. It was in the second cycle of 25,000 years. We had a harvest of six out of thirty, to speak roughly, millions of mind/body/spirit complexes, less than 20%. Wanderers are always drawn to whatever percentage has not yet polarized and come when there is a call. There was a call from those which were not positively polarized as such but which sought to be positively polarized and sought wisdom, feeling the compassion of other-selves upon Venus as complacent or pitying towards other-selves.

89.40 Questioner: What was the attitude of these two entities after they graduated into fourth-density negative and, the veil being removed, they realized that they had switched polarities?

Ra: I am Ra. They were disconcerted.

89.41 Questioner: Then did they continue striving to polarize negatively for a fifth-density negative harvest, or did they do something else?

Ra: I am Ra. They worked with the fourth-density negative for some period until, within this framework, the previously learned patterns of the self had been recaptured and the polarity was, with great effort, reversed. There was a great deal of fourth-density positive work then to be retraced.


Not Stopping to Smell the Metaphysical Flowers?

Ok… so now that we have talked a bit about the phenomenon of fifth-density Wanderers, let’s leave that behind and talk about your specific question.

It may be the case with you that you ARE experiencing love, but it is refined to the point of being integrated with your nondual level of consciousness.  Of course, I don’t know your personal history or life, so you are going to have to see if what I say fits. 

But on the other hand, a “wisdom-over-love” nuance of nonduality can be an imbalance akin to something like “too much head and too little heart;” or “too much transpersonal conceptuality and too little personal encounter with divine intimacy.”  I’m not sure if those two examples resonate with you.  But what I have experienced with some metaphysically advanced people, esp if they have come from a more Eastern bent of spirituality or that they were Eastern yogis/lamas in past lives, is that there is such a desire to blast through the illusion that they sort of bypass a more robustly harmonious synching of the first four chakras in favor of streamlining them enough to get through into the indigo ray. It’s kind of like flying from Dallas to Alaska rather than driving there and really enjoying the journey as much as the destination. 


The Transpersonal Is Profoundly Personal

Such a wisdom-over-love positively-polarized person may operate from a common misconception. That is, the phenomenon of “personal” as it relates to the One Infinite Creator, or Reality, or whatever you choose to entitle That Which Transcends and Includes, is sometimes seen from the lens of nondual spirituality as a digression or regression.  Indeed, the common perception of nondual spirituality towards the Christian-informed-West’s insistence of a personal “God” is that the latter is spiritually operating from a lower-level spirituality that has not yet broken through into the transpersonal.  And I would argue that for the many people in the West, and Christians, specifically, this may be a fair critique.  

But, on the other hand, nondual mystics of the Western traditions, steeped in mystical Christianity’s influence, have found that the transpersonal is not beyond the personal, but rather the transpersonal is grounded in affective intimacy. It’s deeply personal.

To see the world from the point of view of “God,” which is the nondual gnosis, is to look upon the world with the heart full-to-overflowing with almost erotic ecstasies of divine union.  God IS personal because the nature of Love is relational.


Love Is An Encounter With the Other

Among many qualities of divine Love, one thing rises above: Love is an encounter with the Other that causes such delight and joy–all the while there exists the ever undergirded  gnosis that the Other is not in any way ontologically different.  In other words, to experience unity from this kind of nondual perspective, there is a gnosis (lived experience) that unity is “diversity maintained and protected by Love.”  That the One and the Many is a “Unity-of-Diversity” which can be enjoyed at the nondual level as an ever-present rooted and radiant intimacy.  Even if one moves into the “emptiness” of awareness (as in, “emptiness is form and form is emptiness”), it is an emptiness that is experienced nonetheless as a plenum; that the void and emptiness of pure awareness as a kind of “darkness,” is actually pure Light–just undistorted Light since infinity, itself is undifferentiated at the highest level. Yes… we are moving into conceptual thinking about things that are nonconceptual or transconceptual, and this may not help with the gnosis of intimacy. 

God Is Personal, Too

So what would?  An exercise that I have asked some people who pose similar questions as you is this:  What would it be like for you to do an experiment and attempt to see God as a personal being with whom you can dialog and form a relationship? 

Yes, the Infinite Source is Energy, and Awareness, and all of that. And yes, the Infinite Source transcends manifestation and is beyond the illusion of form. But what about Ra’s notion that the Infinite Source, which is Intelligent Infinity, desired to experience Itself through creation? Well, that would mean that everything–Every Thing–is the Source experiencing Itself, infinitely.  And as such, the Creator experiences Itself in two very important ways: 1) as the unique thing itself (haeccity), and 2) as that which unites one thing to another; that is, the relationship.  


Everything Is a Close Encounter

Indeed, the phenomenon of “relationship” is itself a nature and function of Love and is through relationship, the Law of Three (with its affirming force, denying force, and reconciling force) provides the thrust for the evolution of God.  Said differently, the way the Creator experiences Itself through creation is through the engine or action of the Law of Three. And in order for the Law of Three to be the primary mechanism behind evolution, relationality has to exist.  And in order for relationality to exist, Love has to exist. And in order for Love to exist, there has to be a subtle “I-Thou” quality– or put in another way, “Not One or Two, but both One and Two.” 

So, seeing the Creator or Reality as a Divine Person is just as valid and real as understanding that there is no Godhead but only nondual, undifferentiated awareness.  The enjoyment of a truly robust nondual awareness (esp here in 3rd density Earth) is to not be attached to either framework but to enjoy either one at will… or even better, to hold both of them together as true without needing to favor one over the other: God is both impersonal pure awareness and incredibly personal who cares about you, specifically. 

Ra says something similar here: 53.9 “…We may note that in a universe of unending unity the concept of a “close encounter” is humorous, for are not all encounters of a nature of self with self? Therefore, how can any encounter be less than very, very close?”


Here are some simple questions I’ve asked others: 

  • Can you encounter a flower and feel the love there? To see how the flower is God and you are God and that you delight in the flower as God–as divine–and that the flower is aware of your delighting and delights back–and that you can empathically pick up on the flower’s delighting of your delight? 
  • Can you encounter another person from the lens of the heart (universal love and understanding) and see them from God’s point of view which is to say that this single, unique person, is nothing other than God in personal form? Love calls unto Love–deep calls unto deep–like knows like.  
  • Can you feel a tenderness and warmth when you encounter a “particularity” of creation in its many forms? Be it a bird, a piano, a dog, an idea, a human face, an experience?
  • Can you feel how God is experiencing Godself through that singular expression of God as that thing (haecceity, again)?  


The Darkness of the Veil Enlightens Our Hearts

Ra says in session 48.6, “There is very little work in consciousness in fourth and in fifth densities compared to the work done in third density.” Why? Because as Ra says in 20.24, third density is one hundred times more intense of an experience than the higher densities. What allows for this gift of intensity so that so much consciousness work can be accomplished? It’s the veil of forgetting that we are all one. The darkness of the veil ignites the light of our consciousness and enflames our capacity to love.

Therefore, can you start to delight–even laugh out loud–at the glorious gift of the veil? Why delight and laughter? Well, it’s because the ingenuity of the veil strikes you like the archetype of the lightning-struck tower. Free will could not filter down and into third density without the veil. And without free will, we don’t have the ability to choose to love. Yes, love is the nature reality but at the level of us humans, we must choose love–or reject it. Either way, the veil gives us this choice, and that choice becomes the cornerstone upon which all of the rest of our spiritual evolution for the next many millions of years is structured (76.16).


In conclusion, I would like to invite you to simply ask the Creator to reveal Themselves to you in a personal way.  With sincere intention, make known your questions to God and then watch how your prayers are answered.

“Who are you God?” 

“Show me your Face today.” 

“Dwell within me today and make Your presence felt inside my heart.”  

“I invite you into my heart.” 

Or perhaps pray this traditional prayer:

“Come, Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of Your faithful and enkindle in them the fire of Your love.

Send forth Your Spirit and they shall be created.

And You shall renew the face of the earth.

May you enjoy the divine intimacy of the One Infinite, Who eternally transcends all things, incarnates as all things, and dwells within all things.



Here are two great posts from different sources that highlight what I have tried to say above:

Taken from channeling session with Q’uo regarding the Buddha and Jesus Christ:

There are two different styles of seeking when gazing at these two powerful and poignant beings. To one (Jesus), knowing that his kingdom was not of this world, he nevertheless entered into the world with all of his heart and soul and nothing in his heart but love for all he saw. As he entered in, so his physical body was destroyed by that which he took upon himself: the suffering of the world. All suffering was taken into the self and accepted. That it destroyed his physical body was not that which was important to the one known as Jesus the Christ, but rather that he do his father’s bidding. “Not my will, but thine,” were his words.

The Buddha saw the same world and knew that he was not of it or part of it. Consequently, his path did not move into the open heart and take all of the suffering of the world into the self. Rather, he allowed the things of the world to fall away as they seemed to want to fall away in his view. Over the period of a lifetime he was able to investigate each path in the world and conclude that that was not his path. The principle of “neti-neti, not this and not that” [1] comes into play here. Thusly, as the Buddha allowed all to fall away except the seeking for the one Creator, the entity no longer was concerned with the suffering of the world except to pray that all suffering might cease. There was not the attempt to take on the suffering of the world; rather, the attempt was to allow the suffering of the one known as the Buddha to fall away and as suffering fell away from the Buddha, so it would fall away from the world.

The teachings of the one known as Jesus appeal to those who enjoy the feeling of an open heart, a heart open to love. The teachings of the one known as Siddhartha appeal to those who seek wisdom. Yet, the compassionate follower of Christ and the compassionate follower of Buddha meet in the middle where love and wisdom are balanced. Consequently, either path is sound and useful. And we might suggest to those who are Buddhist or Hindu and have followed the path of the Buddha for their lifetime that they investigate what it is to follow the teachings of the one known as Jesus. It is equally useful for those who have followed the teachings of Jesus over the period of their lifetime to investigate and enter into the teachings of the one known as Siddhartha.


Taken from: https://cac.org/the-whole-is-in-the-parts-2021-04-19/

The Contemplative Call to Nature

The Whole Is in the Parts
Monday, April 19, 2021

St. Augustine (354–430) proclaimed in one of his great sermons, “The end will be the one Christ, loving himself.” [1] Paul preceded St. Augustine when he wrote that, in the end, “God will be all in all” (1 Corinthians 15:28). They saw creation as coming full circle.

Both Augustine and Paul are pointing out that the Eternal One has come forth and has taken on form and manifestation in the whole of creation: humans, animals, plants, elements, the galaxies, and all the endless forms and faces that have come forth from God. Everything in creation is the infinite self-emptying of God, and as such has inherent dignity and deserves respect and appreciation.

As Christ told Lady Julian of Norwich (1342–1416) when he showed her a small thing the size of a hazelnut nestled in her hand, “It is all that is created.” Julian understood that “Everything that is has its being through the love of God.” [2] Contemporary philosopher Ken Wilber puts it this way: everything is a holon—a part that replicates the whole.

St. Bonaventure (1221–1274) taught that to work up to loving God, start with the easier lesson of loving the very humblest and simplest things, and then move up from there. “Let us place our first step in the ascent at the bottom, presenting to ourselves the whole material world as a mirror, through which we may pass over to God, the Supreme Craftsman,” he wrote. And further, “The Creator’s supreme power, wisdom and benevolence shine forth in created things.” [3]

I encourage you to apply this spiritual insight quite literally. Don’t start by trying to love God, or even people. Love rocks and elements first, move to trees, then animals, and then humans. It works. In fact, it might be the only way to love, because how you do anything is how you do everything.

Our job as conscious humans is to awaken early to this innate beauty and goodness in all of creation. Why wait until heaven when we can enjoy the Divine Flow in all of nature now?

Being fully present to the soul of all things allows us to say, “This is good. This is enough. In fact, this is all I need.” We are now situated in the One Loving Gaze that unites all things in universal attraction and appreciation. This is enlightenment and we do not have to sit on a cushion for forty years to recognize and enjoy it. In fact, I can almost guarantee that we will recognize and enjoy it more as we spend more time in the natural world with slow and quiet realization. And then a leap of deep contentment!

[1] Augustine, homily on 1 John 5:1–3, in Augustine: Later Works, ed. and trans. John Burnaby (Westminster Press: 1955), 341.

[2] Julian, Showings, chapter 5, in The Showings of Julian of Norwich: A New Translation, Mirabai Starr (Hampton Roads: 2013), 13.

[3] Bonaventure, The Soul’s Journey into God, 1.9–10, trans. Ewert Cousins (Paulist Press: 1978), 63.

Adapted from Richard Rohr, Just This (CAC Publishing: 2017), 36–37; and

The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope for, and Believe (Convergent: 2021, 2019), 57.

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