Social Distancing: Not an Act of Fear or Selfishness, but an Act of Compassion

An article by Diana Roy

Doug Esse: Diana is a dear friend of mine, a fellow student of the Law of One, a friend to the L/L Research group ( who is the steward of the Law of One material, and an extremely positively polarized person. She wrote this in a Facebook comment and I asked her for permission to post it here.


Diana Roy:

Want to share some simple thoughts and opinions. It’s OK to disagree, but I figured I’d do my part to say what I think matters right now.

People without symptoms can and do transmit coronavirus to others, so being asymptomatic doesn’t equal safe to socialize; you can still give and get the virus when you feel fine and the people around you feel fine.

Social distancing is not an act of fear or selfishness, but an act of compassion. Social distancing is not mainly for self-protection; it’s a way to slow the spread of this illness so that individuals who get the sickest do not face a shortage of hospital beds and ventilators due to so many people being ill at once. It’s a way to get through both the incubation phase and the active phase of the virus without spreading it. By staying home if you can, YOUR decision might ultimately save the life of a stranger down the street or someone you love who lives a hundred miles away. The World Health Organization is urging social distancing wherever it is possible.

We have plenty of data showing that a quick and comprehensive response can save lives. We are watching it play out in other countries. The United States is not above this challenge. We are LESS physically equipped to care for the sick than some of these countries, with fewer hospital beds per capita. Not trying to be scary but, by all accounts, it’s true and an important consideration.

I’m saying all this because I feel very surprised by the number of people who still don’t see the point of social distancing–because they feel well and the people they’re out and about with feel well.

Taking precautions is not the same as paranoia. You’re not a yahoo or a jerk for calmly asking your neighbor to please stay a few feet away. It means you love your neighbor, and the world–at least if you look at it the way I do.

I know that people have to work right now in many, many cases. I know that small business owners need to feed their families when no employer is offering to pay for their leave. There are ways to help. There are a decent number of people in my community, for example, who are paying their housekeepers but inviting them to stay home, for everyone’s health. Utility companies are leaving the lights on for people who can’t pay. Some of us are getting groceries and prescriptions for seniors. Lots of people are buying an extra bag of groceries for the food pantry or asking their neighbor if they have enough. People who need help are finding the courage to ask for it–I’ve seen a lot of that. Parents are trying soo hard to keep their restless young ones happy at home… some don’t have yards or much indoor space. It’s actually heroic.

There’s no exactly right or wrong way to do this. I can’t tell who badly needs the gym right now to help cope with their serious mental health challenges and can’t think of another way. I can’t tell whether that person in line at the supermarket who seems to be hoarding staple items is shopping for several elderly neighbors, or has a family of eight, or is just terrified from loneliness and confusion. A friend pointed out that things are especially hard for kids with special needs whose routines have been interrupted. There are restless kids and fatigued parents giving so much right now, because they care about others, about you. Sometimes, maybe, for the health or safety of one child, things need to be done differently–maybe a trip to the playground or the ice cream shop is needed, for example. I don’t want to judge what I see around me. I’m working not to judge anyone else’s choices, but to be very conscious of my own. I don’t do it perfectly, of course.

It’s only my opinion that it’s appropriate for us to do everything we can right now to help slow this down, but it seems that lots of legitimate science agrees. It’s not pure propaganda and fear-mongering. Sure, maybe there exists some nefarious intent somewhere to spread panic and fear and to divide us–that always exists somewhere–but ***our choice to do what is possible to help this situation does not represent some kind of surrender to those energies.*** I am not a coward or a pawn for working in the best ways I know how to help protect my fellow human beings, no matter WHY this work is now required of me, and neither are you.

It’s a unique balancing act for each of us, but I really hope that people will do everything they can, and will resist being so angry at others who seem to not be doing enough. Actual deep breath, count to ten.

And I’m extremely thankful for the health care workers, pharmacists, grocery store personnel, first responders, and all the humble citizens who are helping the world go ’round, because they are so needed. At a time like this, it becomes obvious how valuable these roles are for each of our wellbeing.

If you made it this far, I 💜 you. If you didn’t, I 💜 you anyhow but you’ll have to find out about it some other way. ☺️


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